Time flys by whether you’re having a good time or not. At least, that’s what it’s been for me the past few months.
August 21, 2015 was my last post. We’re still reeling from Dad’s passing. It was the end of an era for us. Now, with all our parents gone, we’re truly on our own or are we? Over the years before I married Margaret I had missed not having a parent to talk to or seek advice from. My parents both passed within two years of each other and both in their early 40’s. As I’ve said many times, Margaret’s parents were really the only parents I’ve had as an adult.
Why is that important? In a word: INFORMATION. The gap between one generation and another is filled with information. It’s what helps one generation move on to the next. Each passing down information to move our species forward. Progress.
As a parent, I see mistakes and triumphs in the lives of our children and grandchildren all the time. We all wish we could save them from their mistakes and insure that they would win more than they’d ever loose. However, that’s just not the way it works.
Our own FREEAgency is allowed to flourish. It must. For, if it is held back, then we are all held back from the progress that is ours to make. We must all make our own choices. Do we have to make them alone? No. We don’t have to make them alone. Parents are good, even great for giving counsel. Prayer and a spiritual connection can be even better (if we practice and use it).
No, I’m not going to make this a piece on religion (although I could). Instead, it’s simply about communication. Who do you turn to for advice? Who guides you? Who can you count on when there is NO parent or loved one available to you?
We’ve just closed out November and for me, it’s a season of remembering, being thankful and counting my many blessings.
Personally, this has been one of the hardest years on record for me. The challenges my wife and I have faced have seemed (at times) too heavy to bear. That is until we look around. We are so grateful for what we have. We’re grateful for the past even through we have made mistakes. Good fortune and even mistakes have brought us to this day. If it were not for all the things we’ve done in the past, we (I) wouldn’t be here to give this “status update.”