Recently Oprah had the author of “The Secret” on with those who’re teaching “The Secret” to anyone that will listen. Those last two words are truly the subject of my blog today.
Every heard the expression that “You can lead a horse to water, but you can’t make them drink?” Well, when it comes to teaching or learning something, anything the student has to be prepared to hear the message.
Why is it that many of us have attended a class but when asked about the subject material, some of us couldn’t begin to give an answer. The reason is because some of us “wanted” to hear what was being given, others were there because they had to be. Some wanted to listen but allowed themselves to be easily distracted by their thoughts, the events outside the class or . . .it really doesn’t matter. As the saying goes, “When you’re looking for an excuse, anyone will do.”
How does one prepare to “listen?” The answer will vary with everyone. The common thread is this, “is there a perceived need.” Many of us simply don’t know what we don’t know. Some of us want to know but haven’t given any thought to want we want to know.
In order to change, you, not someone else must want to change. No one can change you. You have to want it. Listening is exactly the same. You have to want to listen. In a world with 500 channels of television, XM, iPOds and a cell phone in everyone’s hand, you think we would all be good listeners. In truth, most of are NOT. Why we’re not will vary with each individual. Essentially it is a matter of choice.
If you agree, then you must also agree that we’ve chosen NOT to listen. We make that choice at the subconscious level every day as we are continually bombarded with “noise” from everywhere.
In truth, if we want to grow, if we want more, we need to first make a decision to listen.